Well, we survived last Shabbos as rent-a-parents. I tried to stay positive, despite some rather trying episodes, and it worked out well. We got a shock just before we arrived at their house. I finally called the mother (who had communicated only by text all week) to ask the door code, and at this point she informed us that "12 high school girls will also be staying for Shabbos". Er, say that again? You forgot to tell us this? As it worked out the girls were out for both meals, and were very sweet when at home. Still, 3 kids, 12 high school girls and 3 pet birds made for a busy time.
The IVF meds didn't make things any easier. Lupron has made me bloated, tired and now it seems, has raised my blood pressure from a usual 110/70 to 134/96. I had the Doc paged today (Sunday), to check if I should still continue on the Lupron- which I have been taking for 16 days now, and I've never heard of anyone taking just Lupron at the start of their cycle for so long. The average appears to be 12 days. Of course the KGB Klinik won't tell me why I've been taking it so long. The Doc returned the page and said to keep taking the Lupron, and I should go to bed for the rest of the day.
High blood pressure can happen in pregnancy- but what do you do when the medication you are taking trying to get pregnant gives you hypertension? Moreover, do I really want to start a pregnancy already with high blood pressure? And on bedrest?? Not the most auspicious of beginnings.
I keep thinking, perhaps I should switch to IUI. I'm not sure about this, as the clinic hasn't shared the results of my husbands SA yet, apart from saying we shouldn't need ICSI when the time comes. One of the reasons I chose IVF was that the Rabbi would not allow for a SA until the actual IUI procedure was taking place. I would have to go through all the IUI treatment, with the chance it might be cancelled at the last minute due to a low sperm count. That, I decided, was too risky. I've undergone 2 years of testing a 3 different clinics, and the problems highlighted we ones to do with staying pregnant, not getting pregnant. So I came to the conclusion that maybe the issue was with my husband.
Really not sure what to do, my dear readers, apart from ponder why life is so so complex.
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- JewishMama
- Orthodox Jewish woman who's been trying to get/ stay pregnant for what feels like way too long.
2 comments:
This is for sure one of the most trying situations. I've heard the stories, the bloating, the emotions way crazy, too many decisions, all seem like crunch decisions. Really feel for you here and pray for the best. Gam zu?
Oh, I can't believe the "and by the way 12 girls are staying at our house" thing... These people have a lot of nerve!
I don't get why you can't have the results of the SA. I met with Puah (puah.org.il) & they have lots of workarounds for infertility procedures (including a 'halachic condom' used to collect an SA, etc.)
Have you had any genetic testing done? I know it's too late for your current cycle, but if there does happen to be a problem, PGD could also be a solution for you...
If you find out more about the specifics of what the doctors think is wrong, feel free to get back to me & I can try to help you troubleshoot.
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